Motivational Monday: A Lesson in Timelines and Goals

Throughout your life, you’ve probably thought you’d like to achieve certain goals by a particular age. Maybe you want to be married by thirty, have a kid two years later or be established in your career by age thirty-five. Then as that age approaches you find yourself not at the job you dreamed of or aren’t in a relationship where the other person wants to get married…there are a million scenarios of what why your goals aren’t being met. The upside to not having your goals met is that you realize why something didn’t work out the way you wanted. Maybe you need to find yourself in a new relationship or find a new job that you can grow in. It also lets you see what you do and don’t want from life.

Don’t let your timelines for yourself dictate your life. The problem with not achieving timeline goals when it comes to a career or relationship is that it can be very disappointing. The key is to be relaxed in what you want to happen and let things come as are. Live out your life without a deadline of needing something to happen by a certain age or timeframe. This will take the pressure off, so you won’t have to be so hard on yourself. The more you express to others what you want in life, the better off you’ll be because people can then understand your wants and needs.

I’ll bet if you go through what your plans were from a young age until now, they’ve probably changed a bit. Restructure your mindset so that you know what you’d like to happen in your life but be okay with knowing it might not happen at all or if it doesn’t at the age you wanted, it’s okay because there is still time. Every bit of life is a lesson always teaching you what you need to learn and grow. Listen and learn from those lessons, they’ll make you realize what you need in the future.

Happy Monday!

❤ Always, Amy Beth

Motivational Monday: Saying “I Don’t Know” Does Not Mean You Are Not Confident.

I was once screamed at for telling someone that I didn’t know something. They yelled, “Stop saying, I don’t know!” Having people in my life who’d yell at me when I didn’t know something made me feel bad about myself. I internalized their words by taking it out on myself and not ask for help.

That all changed when I had someone tell me that they say they don’t know something but can always find the answer. This made me realize that it IS OKAY to admit when you don’t know something. Asking people for help is good. You won’t know how to do everything in life, especially when starting something new, whether it is with work, cooking, working out, etc., you will spend your entire life learning. I’ve realized I’m attracted to people who are smart and the people who’ll tell me when they don’t know something but can find out the answer by asking the right people or researching the answers. I always feel better when I have people, I can rely on to ask questions or talk myself through the answer with someone else. You might even be the person someone reaches out to when they don’t know the answer, so be patient with them and help them learn.

Sometimes people get into a habit of telling others to do things but not explaining how. I’ve realized it is everyone’s job in life to speak up when they do not know something. It does not mean you are not smart, stupid or have no confidence. To be a confident person, you must ask questions. If people put you down for that, that is on them and not you. I’ve learned to ask how to do things then take notes to remember. If you don’t do the same things every day, chances are you won’t always remember them. I can barely remember what I did an hour after I’ve done it, ha.

I hope what you’ll take away from this is to ask questions, be the person someone else can talk to, always say thank you when someone helps you answer your question and remember: saying you don’t know does not mean you are not confident, it means you are being honest. Confidence comes when you let your walls down, admit what you don’t know but that you can always find the answer ❤
Happy Monday, Loves!