One New Year’s Eve I made “being happy” my New Year’s Resolution. I failed miserably. I thought if I told myself “I’m going to be happy this year” that I would be. The problem was I didn’t do anything to consistently make myself happy that year because I continued to go about life the way I had always known.
Looking back I realize happiness is an important part of life but you have to do things you enjoy to get yourself there. This is where I’ve realized that you can make yourself happy by doing things you are passionate about; whether it’s working out, cooking, a hobby, and the list goes on and on. I’ve found my passion through blogging because I’ve always loved to write and now that I’m actually blogging I’ve found happiness. The reason I turned to blogging is because I was tired of not doing anything other than my daily routine of get ready, go to work, make dinner, watch TV and go to sleep. I felt I needed something more and especially something creative that I wouldn’t tire of quickly.
Now that I’ve found something I’m passionate about I can turn my regular routine into scheduling what I want to do next for my blog. Sure I may not be able to blog every day as life gets busy, but it’s something I can always be thinking about to come up with new content. I can even turn a bad day into a better one by focusing on writing a post for my blog. This is all a mind-set of turning the negative into a positive and once that sets in it creates happiness. I encourage you to take something small you like doing and turn it into a passion.
What is something that makes you happy or something that you are passionate about? Let me know in the comments!
I began writing this post last week but didn’t feel like I was at a good place in life to talk about accepting life for where I am now, so I didn’t write it. I then talked to someone who gave me advice about acceptance. She made me realize that my life is going to consistently change (think of an up and down hill that I’ll forever be climbing) and that acceptance is something I am working toward. As my mother says, “It’s always something.” Meaning, if it’s not one thing going on in your life right now, it’s another; your health is fine and then suddenly you get really sick or you just bought your car and you need new breaks on it.
I believe that by accepting life for where you are without comparison to others or judgement from yourself is key to moving forward. When I was in my early 20’s I imagined what my life “should” look like at 31. Eleven years later it doesn’t look like what I thought it should and that is okay. I think it’s important to go through life learning who you are and a part of that is accepting everything you’ve gone through in life. No one has been through the things I have, thinks the way I do or owns my life. Once you’ve thought about these things on a grand scale, it shows that you can’t compare yourself to others and why your life is much different than someone else’s. It also means you can’t compare your life to how you thought it would work out because of life’s changes.
Acceptance means you’re facing reality. Don’t tell yourself sayings like: Get Over It (this saying sounds harsh and is not a nice way to treat yourself). You can accept things by fully living within the present. To stop thinking about the past, breathe and focus on the present moment. Accept your life as a whole, every challenge and success you’ve faced has led you to the present moment. While I know there will always be setbacks in life, acceptance is something that I am working toward.
How do you accept your life for where you are?
I wanted to share how to say YES to yourself. Too many times we get caught up with making excuses for things we want to do but tell ourselves we are too busy or aren’t sure if something will work so we stray away from it. I know this because I’ve been there but by listening to what I need to do for me which in turn will help others is why I said yes to creating this blog.
8 years ago when I graduated college I began writing shopping tips I thought could be useful for others, a few years later I began working out so I started writing about fitness and health (as my digestive system needed to be listened to, so I ate healthier) and one year ago I needed to hear some self-love from myself so I wrote Love Letters to myself. I knew I had to say YES to myself by listening to what I knew I could provide, which was all the advice I had been writing and to put it out there for everyone to see. I hope you all can learn from the tips/advice I share and that it will inspire or change your life somehow, even if it’s just by learning to love shopping or cooking.
I also hope that everyone can listen to themselves when they hear their own voice telling them to do something more than what they’re currently doing. Once the voice is heard, write it down (this will create an idea) and then execute it. This could be as simple as writing a nice note to yourself and leaving it by the door for you to see when you leave for work and when you come home. Having positive affirmations will then help you to do more. Writing down goals and leaving them in place where you can see them every day is also a great way to keep yourself motivated and accountable for accomplishing your goals.
Happy Monday! ❤