Before I began blogging I had read a lot of posts from some of my favorite bloggers that said to not compare yourself to other bloggers. They always talked about not worrying about your follower count, content being similar to other bloggers, etc. You have to gain an audience that enjoys your writing style for you and not because something is a hot topic to write about. You have to remember to be happy for your small successes first. And that if you put in the hard work, people will continue to listen to you just because you’re being yourself.
Not comparing yourself to others can be relatable on so many levels of life as it can be easy to make yourself question about the things you’re doing vs. what someone else is doing. This all comes down to recognizing that NO ONE ELSE IS YOU. Only you have your own ideas that you can bring to the table. Your uniqueness is what sets you apart from everyone else. No one else will speak the way you do or speak for you, know the things you know and have learned. If you can be yourself all of the time, it will show no matter what you do in life or what you’re working toward. As long as you can be honest, show authenticity and be yourself, that is what will attract the right people who will stick by you in the long.
Please let me know in the comments how you show people your authentic side. Happy Monday!
Every single day you make choices. Whether or not to do the dishes after eating, start and finish laundry in the same day, clean your home in one day or just lay around all day. These little things can often seem like a big chore in our head but in reality if we just get it done, we can spend the rest of the night doing what we want without thinking about getting something done later.
Side note: I’m definitely a culprit of agonizing over chores but in reality my home is small and they don’t take long to do-plus putting on music or a podcast helps motivate me to get things done. Another thing that’s helped is to pick a day for when I’m going to do chores.
Whether or not we do the small things today, we listened to ourselves by doing what we wanted to do today and left the rest for tomorrow. So what about the big choices in life? Do you listen to yourself about what you need for today so that you can feel better tomorrow? The point of this is to not burn yourself out by getting every single small thing done today but by finding balance of the small stuff so that you can focus on the big stuff you actually want to get done vs. what you have to get done (like chores).
I believe that we are living the life we want. When we wake up, we either let the small things take over our lives or we do balance the small stuff with the big things; your dreams.
The big things can be taken in small steps and are just as important to do as the small stuff. So don’t get too caught up always doing small things and remember to take care of yourself ❤
One New Year’s Eve I made “being happy” my New Year’s Resolution. I failed miserably. I thought if I told myself “I’m going to be happy this year” that I would be. The problem was I didn’t do anything to consistently make myself happy that year because I continued to go about life the way I had always known.
Looking back I realize happiness is an important part of life but you have to do things you enjoy to get yourself there. This is where I’ve realized that you can make yourself happy by doing things you are passionate about; whether it’s working out, cooking, a hobby, and the list goes on and on. I’ve found my passion through blogging because I’ve always loved to write and now that I’m actually blogging I’ve found happiness. The reason I turned to blogging is because I was tired of not doing anything other than my daily routine of get ready, go to work, make dinner, watch TV and go to sleep. I felt I needed something more and especially something creative that I wouldn’t tire of quickly.
Now that I’ve found something I’m passionate about I can turn my regular routine into scheduling what I want to do next for my blog. Sure I may not be able to blog every day as life gets busy, but it’s something I can always be thinking about to come up with new content. I can even turn a bad day into a better one by focusing on writing a post for my blog. This is all a mind-set of turning the negative into a positive and once that sets in it creates happiness. I encourage you to take something small you like doing and turn it into a passion.
What is something that makes you happy or something that you are passionate about? Let me know in the comments!
I began writing this post last week but didn’t feel like I was at a good place in life to talk about accepting life for where I am now, so I didn’t write it. I then talked to someone who gave me advice about acceptance. She made me realize that my life is going to consistently change (think of an up and down hill that I’ll forever be climbing) and that acceptance is something I am working toward. As my mother says, “It’s always something.” Meaning, if it’s not one thing going on in your life right now, it’s another; your health is fine and then suddenly you get really sick or you just bought your car and you need new breaks on it.
I believe that by accepting life for where you are without comparison to others or judgement from yourself is key to moving forward. When I was in my early 20’s I imagined what my life “should” look like at 31. Eleven years later it doesn’t look like what I thought it should and that is okay. I think it’s important to go through life learning who you are and a part of that is accepting everything you’ve gone through in life. No one has been through the things I have, thinks the way I do or owns my life. Once you’ve thought about these things on a grand scale, it shows that you can’t compare yourself to others and why your life is much different than someone else’s. It also means you can’t compare your life to how you thought it would work out because of life’s changes.
Acceptance means you’re facing reality. Don’t tell yourself sayings like: Get Over It (this saying sounds harsh and is not a nice way to treat yourself). You can accept things by fully living within the present. To stop thinking about the past, breathe and focus on the present moment. Accept your life as a whole, every challenge and success you’ve faced has led you to the present moment. While I know there will always be setbacks in life, acceptance is something that I am working toward.
How do you accept your life for where you are?
One of the things I’ve always enjoyed doing is listening to other people’s stories. I grew up watching Oprah and Ellen, who both have incredible stories as individuals and have had amazing people share their stories through their platforms. This year I’ve watched a lot of YouTube channels that are based around learning what someone else’s life is like (I used to only listen to YouTube for music). I’ve learned everything from people’s routines (morning and night), financial advice, how to cook meals (like how to bake panko chicken tenders), how to stay healthy, blogging advice, to even watching family channels. P.S. Almost everything I’ve learned about blogging, I learned from YouTubers and the rest I learned from Bloggers. I watch these videos almost every morning (unless I’m in the mood to listen to music) while getting ready. I’ve even started getting into podcasts where I’ll listen to podcasters interview women business owners/bloggers share their challenges and struggles in business. I listen to these while cooking dinner and doing the dishes. It helps to pass the time, learn something and make daily routines not daunting.
My point in sharing all this with you, is that we can all learn something from people’s lives. There is someone you can relate to online who is going through the same things as you. They can teach you something new about life whether it’s how to cook chicken, learn a new skill or how to face a struggle. We can all find the time to listen and learn from other people, especially if it’s someone we can relate to.
Here are some of my favorite YouTubers & Podcasters below J
YouTube channels: The Financial Diet, HealthNut Nutrition, Haley Paige (lifestyle, blogging & family), Allison Lindstrom (blogging), BuonaPappa (food-chicken tender recipe on their channel), Tweaked Style, OWN, The Ellen Show
My Three favorite Podcasts: The Influencer Podcast with Julie Solomon, The Becoming Fearless Podcast with Annie Spano-both speak to entrepreneurs of their success and challenges with business. And just for fun I love listening to Good Mourning Nancy-with Gracie & Abby who talk about horror movies.
I wanted to share how to say YES to yourself. Too many times we get caught up with making excuses for things we want to do but tell ourselves we are too busy or aren’t sure if something will work so we stray away from it. I know this because I’ve been there but by listening to what I need to do for me which in turn will help others is why I said yes to creating this blog.
8 years ago when I graduated college I began writing shopping tips I thought could be useful for others, a few years later I began working out so I started writing about fitness and health (as my digestive system needed to be listened to, so I ate healthier) and one year ago I needed to hear some self-love from myself so I wrote Love Letters to myself. I knew I had to say YES to myself by listening to what I knew I could provide, which was all the advice I had been writing and to put it out there for everyone to see. I hope you all can learn from the tips/advice I share and that it will inspire or change your life somehow, even if it’s just by learning to love shopping or cooking.
I also hope that everyone can listen to themselves when they hear their own voice telling them to do something more than what they’re currently doing. Once the voice is heard, write it down (this will create an idea) and then execute it. This could be as simple as writing a nice note to yourself and leaving it by the door for you to see when you leave for work and when you come home. Having positive affirmations will then help you to do more. Writing down goals and leaving them in place where you can see them every day is also a great way to keep yourself motivated and accountable for accomplishing your goals.
Happy Monday! ❤
Welcome to Styles to Make You Smile blog! I’m Amy Beth from Syracuse, NY. Each week I will provide you with realistic lifestyle tips, advice and lessons to make your life easier. I’ll be sharing easy recipes and help you save money on food, tips on how to enjoy clothes shopping, how to focus during a workout class, manage your money AND how to save, love letters that reflect on self-love & the journey of life and on Monday’s I’ll be sharing Motivational Monday, inspiring stories to help you get through the week. I hope you enjoy this journey with me. ❤